ARIELLE BERNSTEIN: Swaddled in Bravado: Our Heroes and Us

ARIELLE BERNSTEIN: Swaddled in Bravado: Our Heroes and Us

nullCultural critics often lament the lack of strong female
characters, but rarely turn their gaze to ask whether male heroes are
actually as empowered as we think they are. 
For all their bravado and bluster, most classic male heroes are not
allowed much emotional latitude. Superheroes like Batman and Superman have
secret identities that can never be exposed, and modern anti-heroes like
Don Draper and Walter White have covert pasts, which they keep closely
guarded. In our culture vulnerability is risky, something the hero has to
be selective about sharing with the outside world. Confession is viewed as
feminine, yielding, emasculating. At best, male confession is seen as
adolescent, the mark of moody emo bands like Bright Eyes and boyish rappers
like Eminem. Jesse Pinkman may be beloved on Breaking Bad, but he still looks like a kid. Walter White is
the icon of the modern adult man, who creates (and destroys) what he will
in order to make his own destiny.

Female heroes who possess agency often revel in the best
of both gendered worlds— they are rewarded for their strength and humanity
in equal measure. Women take great pride in characters like Katniss, but
feel less sure of what to do with characters like Peeta, serving the role
of “movie girlfriend”—selfless and often pushed to the side. If the roles
of women lack diversity of experience, the roles of men in today’s cultural
landscape do as well. For every dumb airhead, we have a dickish bro. For
every manic pixie dream girl, we have a silent heartthrob (a Jordan
Catalano) staring vacantly into space while strumming his guitar.

The male perspective, the supposedly default
perspective, is still one that is actively constructed, while it receives
far less critical examination than femininity does.

In reality, the masculine mystique is as incomplete and
impenetrable as the feminine one. Boys and men are shaped by social
expectations as much as women are. The reason that certain sexualized
images are popularized has less to do with universal male desire than with
the cultural acceptability of certain portrayals of male desire, ones that
boys are just as acculturated to accept as girls are.  The body types that men are allowed to
find attractive on TV are limited to the thin and young and while 2013’s 50 Shades of Grey culture has
bolstered the social acceptability of the female sexual submission and male
dominance narrative, portrayals of any myriad number of kinks and taboos,
especially those that involve a portrayal of male vulnerability, are still
few and far between.There are massive discourses on how to talk about
female desire in periodicals from The

and The New York Times.
Many of these discussions are cursory, assumption-laden and incomplete, but
at least they exist. Male desire, in contrast, is assumed to be unanimous
and well understood, the product of a world of boob and dick jokes, where
getting off feels like a game which only one person can possibly win. Men
are consistently portrayed as emotionally simplistic, wanting nothing more
than beer,  sex and a partner who will
allow them to get away with acting like a goofy child.

Outside of comedy shows, everything in pop culture right
now is a proverbial battlefield. Our heroes are alphas through and through.
We are taught to read Tony Stark’s swagger as sexy, just as we interpret
Don Draper’s sense of entitlement as charming and seductive. In 2013 we
admire the ability to weild a weapon and make a tough decision, but we
rarely see tenderness as being life affirming or empowering. Our heroes
generally go into battle with teeth clenched and talons sprung.

I’m fascinated by images of aggression, and sometimes I
fear that this kind of semiotics of agency is inescapable. I’d like to
pretend my fascination with horror movies and UFC fighting is merely
anthropological, but  I’d be lying if
I didn’t say the other reason I am drawn to violence is that there is
something aggressive inside me too. I can’t listen to Kanye without
identifying with something primitive and raw in his sexually charged rage.
What does it mean when a woman identifies with a man singing about “bitches”
as objectified property? I know he’s not singing about me, but he is
singing about the idea of me. Sometimes it feels like a kind of Stockholm
syndrome—as if my resolve not to consume sexist material just gave way
after years of losing a war which I might never win. But then I see myself
in the mirror and I see that part of me seduced by the idea of climbing
over other people to get to the top. The part that is pure id: wild,
unadulterated want.

If our stories don’t change, we don’t change. The things
we want are all culturally constructed, sure, but the ubiquity of gender
roles taps into something that is more complex than current culture. These
are core archetypes, as natural to us as breathing or sleeping. The breadth
of the human experience is wide, but our world gets smaller when we reduce
complex human feelings and experiences to prescribed gender roles.

Of course, mainstream pop culture has never been about
freedom. Media, even at its best, is always about indoctrination. For all
the alpha male bravado we see raging against the establishment, the alpha
male is still just an animal swaddled in bravado trapped in a slightly
bigger cage.

Arielle Bernstein is
a writer living in Washington, DC. She teaches writing at American
University and also freelances. Her work has been published in
Millions, The Rumpus, St. Petersburg Review and The Ilanot Review. She
has been listed three times as a finalist in
Glimmer Train short story
. She is currently writing her first book. She is Associate
Book Reviews Editor at
The Nervous Breakdown.

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